Ally’s Thoughts: My Thoughts On #Negaraku, Malaysia


Few days ago, me and a friend met each other in Bukit Bintang. He said he had a training and by the end of the training he wanted to have dinner together.

While we were talking, we somehow talked about something interesting. It is about the diversity of our country, Malaysia. The topic was sparked along this line.

“What do you think about mixed marriage?”

I asked that question. He said he is not sure. Then I added.

It is funny that we live in a multiracial country but I don’t see the we as one nation. We don’t have this Malaysian spirit in us. I don’t know how to speak in Chinese. Nor in Indian. I can only speak Bahasa Malaysia and English. Shouldn’t it be something like I know how to speak all those three languages. Perhaps even more if we include Sabah and Sarawak too.

Somehow mixed marriage from my observation are something common now but the acceptance for such cases are still low. Some parents are not comfortable to allow their children to marry someone with different racial background. I know it is not easy, especially when you are marrying a Malay Muslim here.

Source: Melvister

I remembered when I shared an article to my friends about mixed marriage. It was a group chat and I was the only Muslim. One of the main reason they do not want to marry a Muslim guy is because the guy can marry four women at a time.They also need to convert to Islam.

To me, it is a great sacrifice for someone to convert, a lot bigger when parents doesn’t give their consent. There were two news this year regarding mixed marriage that made it to the local news frontpage. One couple have their parents blessing and the other did not.

There are other things as well that I can’t understand why it still exist, such as national type school. I know that even if you are not Chinese or Indian, you can enter the school. Why can’t we just make it one national school? I had my primary school in the city, all of us gathered and have fun together and race doesn’t matter. That school somehow made me feel Malaysian.

We also lack in racial knowledge towards each other. Each races has their own tradition and customs. Somehow, it is still not a common sense for Malaysian. Something like Malay don’t eat pork or Indian don’t eat beef. So much things we don’t know about each other.

Not to mention that some people still believes in racial statements and stereotype. I believe we are not lacking in nationalism, but we lack in understanding towards each other. Why can’t we be someone who understand and respect each other? Is it because of how we raised? How our politic works? Our surrounding?

To be united and true Malaysian. There are few things that we need to do and it is not unity alone. It has to be done as early as possible through education. We must come up with a syllabus that can educate our children and introduce them to the unique culture of Malaysia. We must teach them how important it is to be open minded, accepting, respecting and grow in diverse community.We may have different colors and religions. We were born in the same soil of Malaysia.


In commemorating our 60th years of Independence, I wish in the next 50 years during my old life and my grandchildren life. I am still alive to see Malaysia that embraced their identity and we are united as real Malaysian. A Malaysian in the future knows how to respect other Malaysian, knows the core languages that made Malaysia multiracial and we can stand proud together without any conflicts. We are living in the same house but understand each other needs.

This is #negaraku Malaysia. I am a proud Malaysian and I hope you do too.

9 thoughts on “Ally’s Thoughts: My Thoughts On #Negaraku, Malaysia

  1. Ally, your post has really risen a lot of interesting points that I agree upon with you. Can a country truly ever be united? Will people always look down upon others just because they are different in race? Hopefully, the future will change some of the things that are occuring now.

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  2. I think this is a concept that’s important not just in Malaysia but so many other countries as well. Despite all the advancements and how open minded a lot of younger generations are, many parents still remain traditional and want their children to marry the same ethnicity, etc. I hope there can be a day soon when we all embrace our differences.

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    1. That is true. Our younger generation are open minded but they are still young and perhaps given another 50 years or so, things might be different. 1950s are just 60 years ago and things are much better now compared to back then. Perhaps a better world in the future.

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  3. I agree on your statements re. vernacular schools (incl govt funded religious schools). All govt funded schools should and must be a single stream national schools with options to learn a 3rd language.

    Another true barrier to unity as I see (I’m Sarawakian Dayak), is how so insular some ethnic groups have become. So many non Malays that cannot speak Malay, the national language. If we can’t even master a unified language what makes us able to integrate properly?

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    1. Thank you for voicing out your opinion. Indeed, I see it far from happening for us to be unified by a single language for now. There are so many voices disagree compares to agree. However, I believe there are many ways to overcome and it will take a lot of time and effort.


  4. Ally, I just got to read this post today. I totally agree with the points here. I don’t really subscribed to the idea to have vernacular schools (even though I studied there before). Whenever I read the news about some politicians encourage to raise fund to build Chinese schools etc, those suggestions are really hurtful to Malaysia. Somehow, many people still support the ideas and so-called to protect their mother tongue, but somehow they have forgotten that we’re living in Malaysia and we have been living here for 60 years. We know very very little about each other, and we show very little respect to each other as well. Well, ironically when I told my group of friends about this, they will think that I’m just been naive, or I don’t know about the world. I seriously think the gov (state or centra) should start to build a school for Malaysian. My ideal school is to have everyone with different colours around, we learn other people’s cultures and language. Many people think Bahasa is a useless language, then many of them isolated themselves to learn English only or English and one of their mother tongue. I told my Chinese friends that they should be proud that they can speak and write Bahasa. Again, they thought that I talk nonsense. Haha. I really hope that things can be changed.

    As for the mixed racial marriage, I think that the issue shouldn’t be existed, if we’re not racist. Because marry with a Christian, they’ll also want you to be converted to a Christian. As for the 4 wives, I think is the man issue.
    It’s nothing to do with religions if a man want to have mistresses behind your back or not. Haha.. so have choose wisely.
    These are just my humble thoughts.

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    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Mintly.

      Perhaps the idea of uniting everyone under one school is a utopia that some will never approve. Perhaps not in our time but I’m sure in few years later, we will have better educated people that understand the importance of this matter in building a great nation.

      Maybe they do not see the importance of Bahasa but isn’t that what makes us a Malaysian? As so called Millennials that will become a parent one day or have became one, they have the ability to shape the next generation. I’m sure we can agree with this one.

      Yes, something like having 4 wives or cheating in relationship are individual issues. We can basically take lessons from couples who had mixed marriage and living happily until the end of their life.

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