Ally’s Thoughts: Everyone has problems, why yours any different?

Hi everyone,

I hope all of you are doing fine. Let me get straight to the point here.

We all have our problems, in fact, everybody else have problems. It is the truth and no one can deny that.

What makes us different is the tolerance we have when it comes to problem. For some people, they can be unfazed and probably getting excited and felt challenged when facing problems. Some on the other hand may feel its the end of the world.

I’m sure for those who is in stress or depression heard this many times.

“You are lucky, there are others out there are more unfortunate.”

“Your problem is not that big, I have bigger problems.”

“Mine are much more complicated, yours are easy.”

In a certain perspective, its not wrong to say these. However, in a different perspective these are the least thing we want to hear from someone.

Everyone have problems and some find solutions, some did not. Being compared at that moment is just the last thing  some people wants to hear. It is not about who is the most pathetic or helpless. Are we being selfish for having problems and wanted someone to listen?

We just want someone to listen. We have something that we consider so big inside our chest and we want to pour it out. Sometimes, we felt stressed and depressed not from the problems that triggered our mind to act that way but the built up negativity after that. We want interaction, verbally and physically. We are being selfish and nothing is wrong with that. Our problems are just the catalysts but the accumulating feels of hopelessness what made our life much more suffocating.

I admit that having these ideas definitely putting myself a label, I am weak. I don’t doubt that. I am weak. That is why I am facing these unwanted moments. My mind is so vulnerable that I can’t look things brighter. This is not the first time I felt this way. That is for sure.

I’m sure we used to hear this phrase, “stop comparing yourself  with others, do things on your own pace…”

Isn’t it should be the same when we said we have our own problems. Don’t compare our problems with other people. We have different tolerance and resistance. Acknowledge our problems and accept it. Sometimes, we know that we can handle our problems easily but there will always be that doubt in ourselves.

In the end, what do we need?